New Year, New You, or Nah?
A New Way to Look at New Year’s Resolutions
If your holidays were anything like mine, that meant you spent at least five minutes staring at the sprawling pile of dirty dishes on your counter and the stack of half-wrapped presents on your floor, all while your mental to-do list beat you upside the head with questions like: when are you going to have time to get all this done? When are you going to make time for the things you want to do? How are you supposed to get all this done and still have time to sleep?And, my personal favorite: when did this become my life?
The holidays present a perfect time for a reset. With the new year around the corner, you’re inundated with reminders to make resolutions you already know you won’t keep. Your emotions are cranked on high. Bittersweet memories are resurfacing. Social obligations thin your time while presents and decorations and food and drink drain your bank account.
So, instead of melting in a puddle of tears and Christmas cookies, set yourself on the couch with a pen and paper and write out who YOU are. You, the real you. Not your job, not your hobbies — you. You at the core.
It’s easy to lose sight of who you want to be when your mind is swimming in Action Items and To-Dos and Shoulds, because YOU are not a list of obligations. No, you’re so much more, and it’s time to celebrate your youness with your very own personalized mantra.
What is a mantra?
A mantra is a simple list of affirmations repeated (out loud!) daily.
Words are powerful.
YOUR words are powerful.
Take some time to think about who you are, how you see yourself and how you want to feel. Then break those down into simple, positive ‘I’ statements. Feel free to borrow favorite quotes or affirmations, and tailor them to fit your needs.
Here’s mine, and watchout — there’s a carefully hidden curse word in there:
I am Shannon Motherf****** Ferretti and I am the boss of my life.
I do and get what I want.
I am flexible and strong, inside and out.
My happiness is dependent on me alone.
My bank account does not define me.
I am not a number.
I have no interest in suffering, or in self-denial.
I am a sensual and sexy beast.
Reality is highly overrated.
Don’t let your mantra become a nagging list of guilt-inducing shoulds. I wanted my mantra to remind me of who I am on those days when I don’t feel like me anymore. On those days that you don’t want to get out of bed and you feel overwhelmed by your to-dos and when you worry you’re turning into your parents. I wrote my mantra for those moments — to remind myself of my core identity when I get lost in my own shuffle.
Now your mantra should be whatever you need. If you want to tell yourself every day that you are a fierce crime fighting ninja of prose and power, get after it. Those are your words, not mine.
So whether you are planning on revamping your whole life with your New Year’s resolutions or keeping everything status quo, making your own personal mantra will help you stay true to you through the new year.